Everyone has their limit
Anger is a natural emotion and we all become angry from time to time. It can be useful, in terms of protecting oneself from harm, however, it can also be incredibly self destructive or threatening to other people around us. In such event, it is important that help is sought right away in order to effectively deal with the problem and prevent it from escalating.
We each respond differently to anger. Some of bury our anger deep within, causing us to feel low, worthless or depressed. Conversely, some of us outwardly express our anger, which can be damaging in its own right, for example if it is re-directed negatively unto the people in our lives.
Anger can sometimes be a sign of depression, or other mental health issues. There are actually different types of anger. Some widely accepted forms of anger types are as follows;
- Passive anger can be incredibly difficult to identify yet felt by those around you and impact the relationships in your life.
- Chronic anger, can lead to other mental health issues.
- Volatile anger can often be sporadic, violent and extreme.
- Overwhelmed anger, in which the anger is all consuming and too much for the sufferer to tolerate.
- Self-inflicted, may be induced by feelings of guilt and directed towards the self, not to others.
- Judgemental anger is directed outwardly unto others and often caused by deep seeded feelings of resentment.
The aim is to express anger in a non violent manner, with respect and understanding as to its root cause. This is where counselling sessions can often prove highly beneficial, in terms of learning the source of anger and potential triggers, along with ways to diffuse such feelings in order to feel in control.
In considering the potential sources of anger, there are many, including but not limited to;
- Environmental factors play a key part, i.e. living conditions
- Core beliefs or experiences established during childhood
- Feeling unfulfilled
- Financial issues
- Poor quality relationships
Often clients will know if they have difficulty in dealing with their anger. Many people may regularly and habitually experience the following if struggling with their anger management.
- Feeling enraged
- Feeling irritable or on edge
- Being consistently snappy or argumentative
- Difficulty in concentrating
- Feeling tense
- Experiencing high temperatures, high blood pressure or headaches
- Small problems feel like major ones and draw much of your focus
- Inability to control feelings of anger and to diffuse anger effectively, instead becoming aggressive
We at Here to Help, through counselling, hypnotherapy or potential relaxation techniques, will assess your feelings of anger and assist you in understanding your feelings and emotions, providing you with the relative techniques and therapeutic processes in order for you to feel in control.
If you are concerned for your own well being or if you feel that someone is a threat to your safety or indeed someone else’s, please do not hesitate to ask for help. Confide in a trusted friend or family member if it is possible and safe to do so. Contact the emergency services if you feel endangered or threatened. Help lines such as the ones listed below are available to you 24/7 and allow you the opportunity to talk to highly trained health professionals who are able to offer their experience and support.
- The Samaritans: 900 525 100
- Domestic Violence number Spain: 016
- Alcoholics Anonymous Spain: aaspain.org/meetings/catalunya.htm