Upon beginning a journey on the road to self enhancement and effecting potential, our life coaching sessions in Manchester determine how it is first important to accept the notion that you are the architect of your life. We at Here to Help believe that you can have any kind of life you want. You are entitled to it. You can persevere for anything you want in your life and there are no limits other than the limits you place upon yourself. You must believe with everything you have, that the potential for change is real and it is limitless.
I appreciate for many of us, especially those of us battling anxiety, depression, overcoming trauma or crippled with low self esteem, this is a difficult concept to undertake. Consider for a moment the following question…
What are you worth?
All of your years, your experiences, your relationships, your values, your dreams, surely they must be worth something? Even if you think not, in the here, now, today…in this moment…whatever your experiences, you are able to draw a line…to leave all the negativity behind you and to hit that refresh button. All you need to contend with…is confronting the question ‘What do I want for my life? Be as bold as you like with your answer…you are only sharing the answer with yourself…for now at least. If you could do anything with your life, what would you do? How, would you bring excitement into your life? What is your dream?
The next question, ‘What actions would be required of me to work towards this?’ If you do not know the actions required…find out. We live in a time where the answer to most of our questions is a literal ten second engine search away.
Look at what is required to get you started. Does this feel achievable? Attainable? More importantly, as you think about your life, as you imagine the possibility of living your dream…does it feel right?
The Right Coach
Our life coaching sessions stress just how necessary it is that we are able believe in ourselves, to become open to reaching our innermost potential, to foster our inner strength and confidence so that we truly value ourselves and the life we wish to lead.
There is little wonder that so many of us contend with low self esteem, anxiety disorders and confidence issues. In today’s society we are fed a constant spoon of negativity, of doubt, of ‘you could never do that’…of ‘know your place’. It seems that we are trained to live within a box fitting of a ‘normal’ life. I have always found this to be utterly bizarre. I remember the moment, of being nine years old writing my autobiography project for primary school… Chapter ten: What I want to be when I grow up… I exclaimed to an adult as I recounted my project, ‘I want to be a writer…or a zoologist…or a marine biologist…or a painter’…
My Childhood Potential
I was a bright kid and I was nine. In my mind, nothing was out of the realms of possibility, thanks to countless Disney films and a wonderful childhood of vivid imagination and creativity. I was content in the knowledge of what I enjoyed. I knew that I loved animals, I knew that I loved to write with my little yellow typewriter and I was drawing or painting with every spare moment I could find. The instantaneous reaction I received from said adult, consolidated into a sentence that I can still hear, to this day, ringing about my ears whilst feeling like I had been slapped awake into a dreamless reality. ‘She does not have the patience to be an artist…’ followed by the second blow, ‘writing does not make you very much money’ followed by the third blow, ‘you really do need to be excellent in science to work with animals’. Bang, Bang, BANG…all of my ideas were shot down in one sentence. Right there, right there and then is when a whole world of self doubt started to seep into my consciousness.
If I could travel in time, I would go back to that moment, and tell my younger self that I could do anything I put my mind to. But unfortunately, I was left to ponder this realistic perspective…like a seed, it grew and grew, deep within my being, stunting my confidence in what it was I was able to offer the world. Year by year, it grew stronger, as the real world began to cloud whatever dream and wonder I had in store for my life. As I grew up, I navigated my way through conversations with people whose eyes were not so approving, somewhat condescending, eyes that hardly gleaned with positivity about the future that lay ahead of me based upon the answers, slightly unconventional, that I gave.
In our life coaching sessions in Manchester, we at Here to Help assert how it is vital that we leave all experiences such as this behind, in order to move forward and in order to begin believing in ourselves once more and fulfilillng our potential.
For you see, it is our belief that the mind of a child is severely underestimated. The awareness of emotions and feelings we feel as a child, our interpretations of situations, the memories that we store, the damaging impressions that can be left to linger in a single moment… All become adrift within the consciousness that we are to carry through to adulthood.
Personal Experience
In my experiences as a therapist in Manchester, I have witnessed clients trace back their issues to moments in their childhood such as this. Moments of darkness, moments of loneliness, moment of self doubt, of anxiety and stress. In all of these moments as children we are left to process our thoughts alone, therefore often they are not processed, discarded, or put into perspective. Instead rather, they are stored, stored prominently and rigidly within our mind on the shelf labelled ‘self belief’. Our self worth, how we value ourselves, how we think about our future self, our very confidence, are each shaped by moments such as these. I encourage you to trace them back, the negative, discouraging perspectives of others you have picked up along the way, right up to present day. I can quite confidently assert that you have many of them to recall, because we all do.
Whether you experience negative feelings about yourself from external sources and by external, I mean the perspectives of people in your life, or internally, through your own negative view of self, it is important to know that we all have the potential and power to make a change. You must first begin with garnering a clearer perspective of self.
Ask yourself the following: –
‘Are you happy in your life?’
‘Do you feel you are fulfilling your inner most potential?’
Is there is an inexplicable urge, somewhere within, that is telling you that you need a change?
Is there a voice within, telling you that you are not good enough? Or that what you wish for yourself is unrealistic?
Each of these questions are important in determining how you view your life and ultimately, how you view yourself.
Our life coaching sessions speak to those crippled with self doubt, lack confidence, that suffer from anxiety or depression and those of you who feel trapped, or believe that you are not good enough. There are avenues for you to take. Life coaching, as well as counselling, psychotherapy, or hypnotherapy are ways in which you are able to trace the source of your discontent and channel it effectively. Meditation too, is an avenue that allows you a greater understanding of yourself and what you truly want from life.
Where to Begin
Begin by taking time out of each day, just ten minutes, be it first thing in the morning, be it last thing at night before you go to sleep, to allow yourself to reflect on how you are feeling, on what you are feeling. Listen to yourself, so that you can begin to consider what view you hold of yourself and of the life you are living. Do you believe that you deserve to lead a life that is positive, that is happy and fulfilling? We at Here to Help assert that there should be no limits as to what it is you wish for yourself. It is your birth right to want the best for you, to forge a life that is worthy of you, one that excites you, whether what you want in life fits into the life box of normality, or not.
Often, what holds us back is our own reluctance or hesitance to get started. We lock on to memories of prior failures, or our own personal fears. Fears fostered by a lifetime of negative perspectives and outlooks of people who ultimately, hold entirely different values and wants in life to that of your own.
In our life coaching sessions, we at Here to Help urge you not to allow the perspectives of others to hold you back on re imagining your life journey. We aim to enhance your life and your aspirations. Our tailor-made sessions are suited to meet your individual needs and are devised to encourage you to believe in yourself, to value yourself and to enable you to actualise your inner most potential. We will equip you with all of the necessary tools to action your dream.
The road to self enhancement is yours and it is open for you at any time. Take the first step, for time is short, and the time for change is now.
Caroline x
